By Kim Artlip, Columnist
I’m going to forewarn you that this week’s column is not one of my typical ones. This past week, my best friend lost her son. He was only 28 years old and had so many dreams he wanted to fulfill. I’m angry. So very angry to see a life cut short and to see so many moments taken from him and his family.
Will would have late night conversations with me about different Japanese wrestlers, lucha stars and indy guys. They were exhausting, exhilarating conversations that showed me what a passion and brain he had for the business. He wanted to get into pro wrestling as a manager and we talked about where he should go to learn the business – Rockstar Pro or MCW – those were two of our favorites that we discussed but it was always down the road while he was dealing with health issues and life.
“Do not wait: the time will never be ‘just right’. Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have at your command and better tools will be found as you go along.” ― Napoleon Hill
There is never a perfect time for you to take action. There is never a perfect time for you to launch that project, to spend time with your family, to write a book, change your habit, or embrace a new habit. Once you acknowledge this, you will get a lot more meaningful work done everyday.
Trust I’ve heard every excuse in the book. “I’m too tired. I don’t have the time. I am not capable. Someone else will do it. It’s too late now. Now is not the right time. I am not talented. I am not ready. I’m too scared. Nobody will help me. What if I fail. I don’t feel motivated. I’d rather do nothing. I don’t have the money..yet!”
It’s easy to come up with excuses and justify not getting started. The longer you fill your head with rationalizations and empty excuses, the less time you have to take action. It’s easy to say, “I will start when I have more experience, money, time and resources”. By this time next year, you will have a lot more excuses. It’s a cycle. And once you get caught in the loop, it, can be difficult to break free and do something meaningful you care about.
Many people are living their entire lives without ever standing up and stepping out. But it’s exciting to witness the rare few who dare themselves and step out of their personal bubbles to make a change. Most of use live with the stubborn illusion that we will always have tomorrow to do today’s work. We consistently hold on to this belief and keep procrastinating but what if tomorrow isn’t coming for us.
Studies consistently show that when we look back on our lives the most common regrets are not the risks we took, but the ones we didn’t. Of the many regrets people describe, regrets of inaction outnumber those of action by nearly two to one. What dream haven’t you followed?
You may assume that I don’t have an issue following my dreams, obviously when you look at what I’m doing with my life but honestly I spent years wanting to do more. I truly wanted to become a professional wrestler but I used my location, child, failed marriage, you name it to never chase that dream and time was not on my side. 30 years later I finally entered the sport as a promoter/owner but I’ll always live with the “what if” in my head.
What if… we throw caution to the wind and we reach out to that training school we dreamed of attending?
What if…. we pitch that company we dream of working for?
It’s scary putting it all out there and taking a risk. You don’t know how life will turn out and whether or not you will succeed but I’d rather fail at something and be able to say I tried than to spend my life thinking what if…
We are going to fail, we are going to make mistakes but you know what? We will have followed our dreams good or bad and no one and nothing can take that away from us. We took control for one glorious moment and took a risk.
Stop questioning yourself. Stop listening to everyone else. The world is waiting for you to start something. Remember the dream you were too scared to chase? There isn’t a right time for anything. There’s no such thing as perfect timing. If it feels right, just go for it today. Don’t wait until everything is just perfect or right. Get started now. Until next time, light your fire, ignite your dream.
Owner + Promoter